Ways to Increase Compassion and Peacemaking for Self and Others
Here are a few of my favorite ways to learn about a way of thinking and communicating called NVC which stands for Non-violent Communication. This process, developed over the last 50 years by Marshall Rosenberg, is being evolved by many folks and is sometimes called “compassionate communication”, or “communication that connects” and “effective communication”.
Communication connects all life together, from the ecological to the social & political worlds. I believe this kind of communication is one of the most important skills we can learn.
Enjoy the practice, the challenge, the outcomes ! Warmly, Deanne
We Practice To
•Be more compassionate with ourselves and others by increasing our awareness of our feelings and needs
•Distinguish our actual observations from our story about what happened
•Translate our judgmental thoughts into the underlying feelings and needs
•Listen empathically
•Receive “hard to hear” statements without taking it personally
•Make Requests
•Support our own values while honoring the needs of others
•Connect with a sense of aliveness and appreciation
2021-8-7 A NEW 30 MIN FAVORITE Introductory video:
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Words are windows, or they’re walls, They sentence us, or set us free. When I speak and when I hear, Let the love light shine through me. –Ruth Bebermeyer |
Top 7 Key NVC Sentences. 4 min. Video. One of my favorite resources !
SHIFTING TOWARD COMPASSION – an Exercise in Empathy for Self & Others ! A basic process!!
VIDEO 11 min. By Brian Johnson summarizing the book “Nonviolent Communication~ The Language of Life” by Marshall Rosenberg
Below are lots of free videos and resources. I also included some study courses that cost some money and are of high quality.
- ONline Compassion Course : Year-long course ~ weekly emails with a lesson and practice, plus monthly webinars. FAB. Sign up. Starts in June, 2020- June 2021 !
- Michigan Public Radio interview with Lisa Gotleib who teaches Non-Violent Communication.”How to navigate communication about the election.”
- Blame Free State This audio with powerpoint images is a 1 hour webinar with Francois Beausoleil of the Blame Free State Institute. The first 3 minutes are an introduction. Hang in there, it’s good. It also covers the basics of NVC. February 7, 2017
- Wheel of Universal Human Needs + Feelings list and more. Note copyrights including SchoolTransformation.com.
BASICS AUDIO by Marshall Rosenberg, from the book A Language of Life. These videos are where I started learning about NVC – on a blackberry. Marshall Rosenberg shares his journey with creating this language of the heart, language that connects. It’s one of my favorite way to learn non-violent communication. Maybe you would like to try the first 15 minutes, and find out what you think. Some things I might differ with now, yet, there is so much that resonates ! Thom Bond studied with Marshall. Thom and others are taking this work out, and evolving it.
- The Needs Wheel! Super resource !
- These sessions no longer seem to be active. The Link above covers the same material.
0:00:34 SESSION #1 Introduction
1:00:54 SESSION #2 Applying NVC
2:08:44 SESSION #3 Honesty
3:12:44 SESSION #4 Empathy part one
4:20:42 SESSION #5 Relationships
5:18:34 SESSION #6 Authority
6:14:06 SESSION #7 Empathy part two
7:10:35 SESSION #8 Social Change
8:00:18 SESSION #9 Sincere Gratitude
- VIDEO: Marshal Rosenberg demonstrates Non-Violent Communication 11 min. Quite engaging and revealing.
- VIDEO: Marshal Rosenberg, This thing called Love.
- 10 Tips for Effective Communication – great article summarizing techniques
- Transforming Anger to Compassionate Connection. Awesome article.
Worth the read. See if you agree with these ideas.
- What’s Making You Angry? by Shari Klein and Neill Gibson Free Download of the Book
- Causes of Anger – Audio by Marshall Rosenberg
- Creating a Life-Serving Situation Within Oneself: Marshall Rosenberg:
- Experiencing Needs as a Gift: Marshall Rosenberg audio
There is a section that is special to me from 20:00 to 40:00 min - Parenting with Nonviolent Communication (NVC)NVC Academy108,221 views
- NVC on Honesty. Youtube Jeff Brown.
- Nonviolent Communication with Jeff Brown Maharishi University
- How do I give critical feedback without sounding mean?
- Thriving as an NVC Trainer: Jeff Brown
- Jeff Brown NVC on “Honesty” Q and A
- Brene Brown – Vulnerablity Ted Talk. Funny, awesome. Videos – Brené Brown
- Restorative Circles Training Jeff Brown
- FULL – Nonviolent Communication Workshop – Marshall Rosenberg The article below isn’t NVC, but it has some interesting information. NVC would say, anger is the Light on the Dashboard, saying “some need is not being met”.
- How to Use Anger Productively: 10 Steps (with Pictures) – wikiHow Not NVC, but an article from a Zen magazine.
- How to Transform Anger into Connection: 10 Tips for Peaceful Words
- A Compassionate Perspective on Bullying
- Being Open Minded ~ Family Builder, disagreements, divorce, or any time 🙂 Being open-minded can take some time to accomplish as it takes practice and a deep look into one’s self to understand where those thoughts and beliefs come from in the first place. Using compassion also takes some work, and most likely doesn’t come naturally, but once you get the hang of it, you step back and assess each disagreement as they come, and approach with kindness, caution, and respect, you will achieve so much more than those who fight out of anger that leads to resentment.
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Collaborative Communicationin the Workplace. Dian Killian 1 hr video. 4 steps to managing impossible situations at work.
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